Consent

Understanding Boundaries: The Importance of Consent

At John McGlashan College, we believe that respect and integrity are fundamental to all relationships. Consent is a key part of this—it’s about clear communication, mutual understanding, and trust. Whether among friends, in relationships, or everyday interactions, recognising and respecting consent ensures that everyone feels safe, valued, and heard.

What is Consent?

Consent means giving permission freely and without pressure. It’s about understanding and respecting personal boundaries in all aspects of life—whether it’s physical touch, sharing information, or borrowing belongings.

Key principles of consent include:

• Freely Given – Consent must be voluntary, without pressure, manipulation, or influence from alcohol or drugs
• Reversible – Anyone can change their mind at any time
• Informed – All parties should understand what they are agreeing to
• Enthusiastic – Consent should come from genuine willingness, not obligation
• Specific – Agreeing to one thing does not mean agreeing to everything

Why Consent Matters?

Respecting boundaries builds trust, reduces misunderstandings, and strengthens relationships. When we practise consent, we create an environment where everyone feels safe and valued. It encourages open communication and fosters a culture of mutual respect, both within our school and beyond.

How to Practise Consent

Being mindful of consent in everyday life is an ongoing process. Here’s how you can incorporate it:

• Ask Clearly – Be direct about your intentions and seek explicit agreement
• Pay Attention – Observe verbal and non-verbal cues. If someone seems unsure, check in
• Respect Responses – If someone says “no” or appears hesitant, accept it without trying to change their mind
• Revisit Often – Consent can change over time. Always ensure that everyone involved is still comfortable
• Never Assume – Silence or a lack of resistance does not mean consent

Consent in Everyday Life

Consent applies to more than just relationships—it’s part of being a respectful and responsible member of the community:

• Personal Information – Ask before sharing someone’s private details
• Digital Spaces – Get permission before posting photos, tagging others, or sharing content
• Physical Interactions – Whether it’s a handshake or a hug, check in first
• Property and Belongings – Always ask before using or borrowing someone else’s items

Building a Culture of Respect

At John McGlashan College, we strive to create an environment where respect and responsibility guide our actions. Understanding and practising consent empowers us to form healthy, meaningful connections. By fostering a culture of awareness and consideration, we contribute to a safer and more supportive community.

Further Support and Learning

For more resources on consent and respectful relationships, explore:

• Rape Prevention Education Aotearoa: Tools for understanding boundaries and consent
• Sexual Wellbeing NZ